If you and your partner are looking for something new to try in between the sheets, anal play is definitely an option. And since you're reading this blog entry, we are going to assume it's at least mildly interesting to you.
Heterosexual and homosexual couples alike can experience new heights of sexual pleasure with anal play. If performed safely and with open communication, many women find that they enjoy receiving anal sex and the new sensations they feel. Men who try anal play reap health benefits
from stimulating their prostate, while experiencing very intense orgasms.
Sounds great, right? It can be, but anyone trying anal play for the first time should take some precautions in order to make the experience safe and pleasurable for both partners!
Both partners should feel calm and ready before venturing into this new territory. Too much tension could cause pain, and not the sexy 50 Shades kind!
Obviously, you may not be able to say "I want to relax now," and then be completely calm. (If you can do that, call me and teach me how!) So, find something that relaxes your body and mind.
Try a sensual massage from your partner to put you at ease. Light a few candles, put on some calming music and pull out the massage oil. Then tell your partner that your body is his/hers to touch!
2. Try Pleasure Objects
If you look at your partner's package and think, "You wanna stick that where?!" you may want to try a petite pleasure object made for anal exploration. Likewise, heterosexual men who want to have amazing orgasms while reducing the risk of cancer may like to try prostate massagers
The Tantus Ripple may be just what you need for this adventure. First of all, it's made from non-toxic and phthalate free silicone, so you can relax knowing that this toy won't poison your body. Secondly, the progressive beads on this pleasure object allow you to find the girth you desire without hurting yourself or your partner.
Think about it like lifting weights. If you've never lifted before, you don't just run into a gym and start benching 300 pounds! You find a weight that pushes you without harming you, do reps at that weight, then gradually work your way up. Same idea goes with the Ripple. Find a bead you are comfortable with, play there, and then gradually move up!
3. Communicate with Your Partner
This tip is pretty straightforward and oh-so critical. If something hurts, tell your partner. If something feels really good, let them know.
You can decide how to communicate your feelings, but make sure you do so clearly. Got it?
4. Use Lube, Lots of It
Unlike the vagina, the anus does not self-lubricate. This means you will want to bring in some reinforcements!
Pjur's Analyse Me lubricant is made exactly for this purpose. This silicone-based lubricant is made with jojoba, which helps relax the anal muscles. The fact that it is silicone-based means that it will stay slicker longer without having to reapply.
Caution: Most silicone-based lubricants are not safe to use with silicone pleasure objects. If you intend on using a silicone pleasure object, use water-based lubricant or Uberlube.
We do NOT recommend using desensitizing products during anal play, especially for first-timers! These products can keep you from feeling pain, but pain is your body's way of telling you that something is wrong. If something is going wrong during anal sex, you definitely want to know about it!
5. Have Patience
Trying anal can be taxing on your patience, but try to remember that exploring your body and your partner's body is an journey! Take the pressure off yourself and remember that there will be plenty of nights to be even more adventurous. Take your time and enjoy the ride ;)
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