When I first heard the term "g-spot" on a television show in my pre-teen years, I thought someone had discovered a magical spot in women's bodies that made people incredibly happy. Excitedly, I looked it up and found the most confusing definition ever:
a patch of tissue in the front wall of the vagina, claimed to be erectile and highly erogenous.
So many question arose! My vagina has walls? What do they mean by "claimed to be"? Erectile, isn't that a guy thing?
Being the information geek that I am, I've been doing research about this magical spot ever since. If you've been researching this topic, you have likely found that the research is confusing and conflicting at best.
No worries, The Spot is always here to help you learn about...the spot.
1. Fact or Fiction?
In 1950, Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg became the first doctor to write about an erogenous zone inside the vaginal walls. His article sparked a controversy that has been roaring ever since.
In January of 2012, some researchers published an article which said that the g-spot without a doubt, did not exist. In April of that same year, another researcher published an article saying that he had definitely found it. So, what gives?
Well, the debate really seems to stem from a misunderstanding about the definition of the g-spot. Scientists who are looking for a specific gland - like the prostate - often come up empty handed, like the study from January 2012.
However, if you define the g-spot as a specific area 2-3 inches inside the vagina which swells during sexual excitement and feels amazing when stimulated - that exists. If you don't believe me, ask any of the millions of women who have had over-the-moon orgasms as a result of discovering this spot.
So, from here on out, I will be using the term g-spot to refer to an area inside the vagina which has increased sensitivity to stimulation.
2. OK, the g-spot exists. What is it?
What would you say if I told you that the clitoris is about the same size as the penis? You probably wouldn't believe me. Well, my dear, start believing!
Yes, it is true that awesome little spot under the vaginal hood is the clitoris, but it's just the tip of the sexual iceberg! Essentially, the vagina wall is the rest of the clitoris.
How awesome is your vaginal wall? So awesome that it not only contains the nerve endings of the clitoris, it also allows you to stimulate the periurethral glands . Stimulating these glands, also known as Skene's glands, are thought to facilitate female ejaculation (squirting).
So what does all this medical mumbo-jumbo mean? Your g-spot could includes some awesome nerves and stimulating it may enable squirting!
3. Awesome! So, where is it?
I've said it before, and I'll say it again: Every single woman is different.
Generally, you can expect to find a g-spot between 2 and 3 inches inside the vagina. The spot is located on the front wall of the vagina, closest to the urethra.
4. You had me at "orgasm"! How do I stimulate this thing?
Now we're getting to the good stuff!
The g-spot can be stimulated with a penis, fingers, and/or pleasure objects. If you have never experienced the joy of the g-spot, stimulate the external clitoris before trying to find the you internal pleasure spot. This will get the blood going and your g-spot easier to find.
If you are with a male partner, try doggy style or enhanced missionary while you simultaneously massage the external clitoris. (Enhanced missionary is simply placing a pillow under the woman's pelvis to change the angle of penetration.) Make sure to keep communication open so that you get what you want, and he gets the satisfaction of pleasuring you in a new way!
If you're going solo on this adventure, you may look into using a pleasure object as your treasure map. There are many pleasure object designed for exactly this purpose. For example, the LELO Gigi 2 is designed to curve with the female body and has a flat surface to stimulate the g-spot. This flat surface is also great for massaging the clitoris, like we talked about above.
Another great g-spot massager is the Sensuelle Pearl. This unique pleasure object has a small pearl on the flat part of the tip, which massages the g-spot for direct and heightened sensations.
The g-spot may seem like a confusing beast, but don't fret. The best way to truly understand what it is and how it works is to explore for yourself! You will be glad you did.